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我讨厌电话
I hate telephones
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作者 James Fisher 吐槽自己为什么讨厌打电话：电话是同步、打断式的沟通方式，让人无法掌控自己的时间和注意力，而文字消息则可以异步处理。文章引发了对电话文化、骚扰电话和现代沟通方式的广泛讨论。
为什么经久不衰：电话焦虑和骚扰电话是跨越年代的普遍痛点，这篇吐槽精准戳中了同步沟通与异步沟通的矛盾，多年后依然引发强烈共鸣。
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手机系统在拦截骚扰电话上的设计荒谬，逼得用户只能全面静音。
我每天接到大约 20 个骚扰电话，而真正的来电每天只有 0.2 个。Google 自己都怀疑这些是骚扰电话，来电时会弹出红色的“疑似骚扰来电”警告，但居然没有选项可以自动拒接，甚至连“非联系人静音”都没有——我只能把所有铃声关掉，再逐个给联系人设置自定义铃声。这太荒谬了：为什么让手机只允许朋友随时打断我这么难？看来我也讨厌电话。
kibwen查看英文原文
I receive about 20 spam calls per day. In contrast, I receive about 0.2 legitimate calls per day. Google itself suspects that these are spam calls, because it pops up a bright red "SUSPECTED SPAM CALLER" warning when the phone begins ringing. And yet, I have found no option to have the phone automatically decline the call. There's not even an option to silence the ringer for any call not from my contacts; I actually had to disable my ringer for all callers, by default, and then manually, one at a time, set a custom ringtone for each of my contacts. This is completely absurd. Why is it so hard to configure my phone to only allow my friends to interrupt me at any moment of the day, rather than any rando? Turns out, I might also hate telephones.
社会规范已彻底改变：从“电话必须接”到“电话可以无视”。
最近重看老电影《战争游戏》时，我对自己与电话关系的改变有了奇怪的感受。片中有一幕：电话在桌上不停响，却没人接，当年这会制造强烈的紧张感，因为那时没人会无视电话。而现在电话响起时我只会“唉”一声，毫无必须去接的义务。今天的年轻人看那一幕还会有紧张感吗？
xefer查看英文原文
My changed relationship with the telephone became weirdly apparent when I watched the original WarGames movie recently. There's a scene where David (Matthew Broderick) is alone with McKittrick (Dabney Coleman) in his office being interrogated separated by an office desk. While they're sitting there the telephone on McKittrick's desk starts ringing, which he silently ignores keeping his eyes glued on David, who grows increasingly uncomfortable as the phone keeps ringing and going unanswered. I recall when that movie first came out there was a terrible tension in the air because nobody ignored a phone back then. Leaving it to just ring away felt wrong and unacceptable. Now whenever a phone rings I mostly just go "ugh" and feel no obligation to get to it at all. As I watched that scene again I felt nothing of that original tension. I wonder how that scene would effect younger people today watching it for the first time?
雇个秘书处理琐事（尤其是打电话）是性价比最高的“奢侈消费”。
“如果我有钱，我会雇一个永久秘书。”如果我中彩票，这就是我最愿意花大钱的事：不要豪车名酒，只要一个人替我处理一切——买车险、修车、订酒店、下单退货。这能解决我 95% 的日常烦恼，比任何游艇都更能提升生活质量。其实六七个人每人每月出几百美元，就几乎可以合雇一个人干这些事。
yoodenvranx查看英文原文
> If I were rich, I would have a permanent secretary. If I ever play and win the lottery this is the one thing I would spent big money on. No expensive cars, no expensive wine, just a person which takes care of everything. Need a new insurance for the car? Tell the secretary to do it. Car is broken? Tell the secretary to take care of it. Need a hotel? Tell the personal secretary to book one. Phone broken? Just send an email "Please order me a Samsung S8" and it will magically appear the next day. Don't like it? Just tell them to send it back. This would solve 95% of my daily struggles and it would improve the quality of my life way more than any expensive yacht or car could ever do. In fact if you have a group of half a dozen people who each pay a few hundred $ a month you could almost employ one person who takes care of such stuff even as a not-so-rich person.
反方观点：电话焦虑是矫情，电话仍是最高效可靠的沟通方式。
这个观点太令人反感了，而且在我们这代人中如此流行，甚至传染给了原本没这问题的上一代人。电话其实是很好的沟通方式：它是唯一能保证与不在面前的人进行稳定、连贯对话的方式——在这个 skim 消息、随意已读不回成为常态的时代。“任何人都不该打断我”是一种令人不安的现代特权心态。不久前，人们不请自来登门拜访还被认为完全正常。偶尔接一个想占用你五分钟的人的电话，难道不行吗？
disruptiveink查看英文原文
This take is so incredibly obnoxious, and it's particularly obnoxious because it is so prevalent in my generation (Millennials) that it actually started poisoning others that never had a problem with this (Gen X comes to mind). Phone calls are actually great, especially in these days: it's the only way to ensure you can have a stable, consistent conversation with someone that's not standing in front of you (individual or business), in an age where it became socially acceptable to skim text messages without reading them properly, leading to obnoxious, error prone communication, or to just stop replying to people whenever you feel like it, even when in the middle of a somewhat synchronous messaging session, in particular when you're forced to make a decision or relay bad news to the other party (the horror!). "No one should ever be able to interrupt me, absolutely ever" is a disturbingly entitled and modern take. Not too long ago, it was perfectly fine for people to turn up at your house unannounced, to pay you a visit, for no reason in particular other than to engage socially and you were expected to host them at your house (!). Surely we can deal with the very occasional call from someone that wants 5 minutes of your time, no? This opinion is so popular that I wonder if I'm the only one who doesn't have dozens of people competing for my attention on a daily basis. If spam calls are an issue (and I understand they're absolutely horrid in the US, whereas in the UK, where the author is from, you may get one or two spam calls ever couple of months, from my experience), just don't answer unknown numbers unless you're waiting for a specific callback, as most people do. The article then goes on about a couple of unrelated things that have nothing to do with telephones, such as companies having inadequate customer support channels or online banking functionalities. Taking his Barclays example, he could do what he wanted (adjust loan repayments) in branch, yet it is of course time consuming to do so. If Barclays was unable to service him by phone, would he also be denouncing "talking to people in real life" in general because that's the only method this particular bank offered him for servicing his account? No one is arguing changing your loan repayments shouldn't be an online banking functionality there. And yes, if you're ill but can't be arsed to call your NHS GP, then you're clearly not sick and shouldn't be tying up already strained public resources. If you do have a proper disability, then I do believe your GP should arrange for an alternate means of communication with you. "I don't like phones" is not a disability, it's entitlement.
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