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你被允许做的事情
Things You're Allowed to Do
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这篇文章是一份“你被允许做的事”清单，提醒人们许多日常限制并非法律或道德禁令，而是默认习惯、社会期待和自我审查。它鼓励读者重新审视工作、消费、关系和生活方式中的“必须”，按自己的意愿做选择。
为什么经久不衰：它用朴素清单戳破“大家都这样”的默认设定，让人意识到生活可以有别的过法；多年后仍能给人松绑感。
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意识到可以临时买件外套，成了他成年的标志；清单也在解除类似的自我限制。
年轻时某天晚上我在城里走，突然觉得很冷，照例在心里抱怨了15秒。随后我灵光一现，走进附近的百货商店买了件外套。我此前居然从没想过这种可能。听起来很傻，但我把那一刻当作自己成年的起点。我不知道别人是否有类似经历（我小时候很穷，可能本来就不习惯临时买东西），而这份清单的内容很像是同一个路数。
sellyme查看英文原文
One time when I was younger, in my late teens, I was walking through the city around 8pm. I suddenly felt rather cold, and went through the typical 15 seconds of internal grumbling. I then had an epiphany, and walked into a nearby department store to purchase a jacket. Somehow I'd never even considered that as a possibility previously. As silly as it may seem, I use that singular point in time as the reference for when I commenced adulthood. I've got no idea if others have similar experiences (I grew up very poor, so I was probably primed against the idea of spontaneously buying something to begin with), but the contents of this list seems to be very much in the same vein.
乔布斯式观点：世界由普通人建成，因此可以被改变，不必只被动适应。
这让我想起乔布斯的一段老视频。他的观点很简单但很有力：世界是可以被你改变的，而不只是让你参与其中。你周围被你称作“生活”的一切，都是并不比你聪明的人造出来的；你可以改变它、影响它、建造自己的东西。一旦明白你可以戳一戳生活、推动它，它就会有所反应，你就再也不会和从前一样。
keiferski查看英文原文
This reminds me of an old video of Steve Jobs. His idea is simple, but it's really powerful. In short: the world is something you can change, not merely participate in. When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world, try not to bash into the walls too much, try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again. And the minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will, you know if you push in, something will pop out the other side, that you can change it, you can mold it. That’s maybe the most important thing. It’s to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you’re just gonna live in it, versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it. I think that’s very important and however, you learn that, once you learn it, you’ll want to change life and make it better, cause it’s kind of messed up, in a lot of ways. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYfNvmF0Bqw
他列出大量“其实可以”的生活选项，核心是别把社会预设当成唯一玩法。
我的发现包括：每天睡到中午；只工作到够用；在家或任何地方工作；同时有多个伴侣；有异性柏拉图朋友；和多人合租多处住处；读十年书；在冰箱里自制冰茶；批量买食物；喝自来水；混搭食材自创菜品；把通常生吃的东西做熟，或把通常做熟的东西生吃；在家到处睡；30岁后学语言、乐器或运动；聚会不喝酒也照样开心；30岁后开始或停止抽烟喝酒；像买游戏机一样创办公司；不拿VC的钱；花多年多次尝试做出好产品；只为自己或朋友写音乐、演出；在户外不穿鞋；对某个话题没有意见。总的来说：不要玩别人预设的人生游戏，要问它是否让你快乐。你只有一次生命，尽量活足它。有时为了进入更好的位置，你必须遵守别人制定的规则，但仔细看，它们往往比表面更有解释空间。
k__查看英文原文
My findings: Sleep until noon every day. Work only as much as you need. Work from home, or anywhere else for that matter. Have multiple romantic partners in parallel. Have platonic friends of the opposite sex. Share multiple flats with multiple people (i.e. live in multiple places, but cheap) Study 10 years. Make your own iced tea in the fridge. Buy food in bulk. Drink tap water. Create your own dishes by mixing ingredients. Cook/fry/bake food you would usually eat raw. Eat food raw that you would usually cook/fry/bake. Sleep everywhere in your home. Learn languages, instruments, or sports after you turned 30. Drink no alcohol at a party and still have fun. Start/stop smoking and drinking after 30. Found a company like you would buy a game console. Take no VC money. Take muliple years and tries to create a good product. Write music/give concerts for yourself or your friends only. Don't wear shoes outside. Don't have an opinion on a topic. Overall: Don't play pre-defined games in your life, but ask if they make you happy. You only have one life, make the most out of it. Sometimes you have to play by some rules made up by other people to get into a better place, but look at them closely, it could very well be that they are more open to interpretation than they first seem.
批评清单隐含经济门槛：很多“自由”其实是消费选择，穷人无法照做。
这份清单里多得惊人的条目，说到底都是“花钱”。所以尽管这些想法在这里很受欢迎，还是值得指出：大多数人口之所以不能做这些事，是因为负担不起。
eyelidlessness查看英文原文
An astonishing amount of this list amounts to “spend money”, so while these things may play well here I think it’s worth pointing out that a large majority of the population is not allowed to do those things because they can’t afford to.
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